It’s National Stop Bullying Day and this is my story… I donโt share my story very often because itโs not an easy one to tell. BUT if it can help even one person it’s worth it.
I grew up in what seemed like a fairly normal Christian family. We went to church every Sunday. We put smiles on our faces. The person who liked to call himself my dad could quote scriptures all day and tell what every scholar said on each subject. He would cry at all the appropriate times. He looked every bit like a saint.
Then weโd go home to our personal hell and he showed himself as the demon he really is. He abused me, my siblings and my mother on a constant basis. Religious abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse and on through the list. He is a psychopathic narcissist so we were manipulated to the point that we no longer knew what was what.
As most toxic people do, he wouldnโt allow us to associate with anyone who wasnโt also toxic. Gotta keep us in line. This meant I had abuse not only in my home but from my โfriendsโ as well. Itโs impossible for you to know the personal hell this really is unless you have been through it. I didnโt know what was wrong. I didnโt know what was normal. I only knew I was trying my best to be a good girl and keep everyone happy. I was always reaching for something I couldnโt find.
God is good and in time we were able to break away from this horrible bully and the toxic โfriendsโ as well. But the pain didnโt stop there. My family and I have still suffered because of his wickedness. We were forced out of our home and lived in a travel trailer. We lived on one meal a day for months because of what this person did to us financially. I have lain in bed at night pleading with God that my family and I would live until morning. I
There are nights I still cry myself to sleep. There are still days I feel like a broken little girl. I spend my days pleading for Jesus to heal me. There are days I still ache because I just wanted a daddy who loves me. I donโt know why he would want to hurt me instead.
Why am I telling you this?
Because itโs my story and itโs one God has told me to share. Itโs the whole reason I became a coach. I donโt want anyone to have to go through the pain my family and I have.
Today is National Stop Bullies Day. Bullying doesnโt only happen on the playground. Many hearts are breaking due to the bullies in their own homes. For some, itโs their spouse for others a parent or sibling. So many times my family tried to reach out for help from others! Our hearts aching! They turned deaf ears banishing us further into our private hell.
When someone reaches out to you for help PLEASE listen to them! Even just a shoulder to lean on will mean more to them than you will ever know.
Bullies are real. Toxic people are very present in todayโs world. Itโs vital that we educate ourselves so we know how to spot them and guard against them. If you havenโt seen my videos on toxic people I ask you to give them a watch. You never know who you might be saving. A friend, a family member or maybe even you.
My Videos on Toxic People (Adult Bullies)
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