10 Things You Should Never Say To A Girl! Do you know the top 10 things to never say to a woman? If you don’t, you need to memorize them! Something that may not sound mean to you can literally crush her. A large part of knowing how to get a girl to like you, how to impress women and how to get a girlfriend really comes down to knowing how to talk to women. Taking a quick moment to learn how to talk to girls is one of the best time investments you can make. Are you ready? Let’s get started with 10 Things You Should NEVER Say to a Girl!
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10 Things You Should Never Say To A Girl
Today’s video and article are on 10 things you should never say to a girl. Like never.
Have you ever really wanted to impress a woman and wanted to get her to like you and it just went like terribly wrong?
That is why it is so important to know what these things are. Because something that may sound like a compliment to a woman it doesn’t sound like a compliment to her at all.
So I’m going to be going over ten of those things with you today. I think the last one is the one that you need to avoid at all costs. So pay very close attention to that one.
My name is Melannie. I’m a Christian dating coach for men, creator of the online course How to Get a Girlfriend. My specialty is helping good guys get the girl of your dreams.
Okay, are you ready to know what you shouldn’t say to a woman so you can instead impress and attract her? Let’s get started then.
1 – Don’t Use Pet Names
Number one is don’t use pet names unless you are in a relationship.
A lot of guys think that saying things like “sweetie” and “honey” and “cutie” and “baby”, are supposed to be cute things to say, right? Well, the truth is they are cute things to say if you’re her boyfriend.
If you are not in a relationship with this woman instantly it creeps her out guys and makes her think “Whoa, he wants something from me. What’s wrong with him?” and it pushes her away.
If you’re in a relationship with her then using pet names is cute as long as it’s something she’s okay with, then it’s really cute and endearing. That’s why there are movies and songs with pet names.
But if you’re not in a relationship with her it makes her feel like you’re acting like you’re closer to her than you are and it creeps her out. So do not use any pet names unless you are in a relationship.
2 – Don’t Give Her Your Number
Number two. You may have heard me say this before but it’s so important I have to say it again. Never say “Here’s my number, text me” or “Here’s my number, call me.“
Here’s something you need to know about women. This is the way God designed us. Women need to be pursued.
And if you want a woman to see you as a man you need to act like it and you need to pursue her. She can’t see you as a man if you’re acting like a teenage boy.
So this is why it’s so important to pursue her, to ask for her number, and you be the one to text, you be the one to call initially.
One of the biggest mistakes a lot of guys make is they say “Hey here’s my number” and then they don’t understand why she never follows up with them.
And it’s because as women how we are designed, how we are made, we need you to pursue us.
She’s not going to call you and she’s not going to text you because quite frankly she’s not a teenage girl anymore. Now she’s a woman. And so you need to present yourself as a man.
And the truth is don’t you just want to have enough confidence to be able to do the pursuing? It’s pretty important. And actually, that is your need as a man is to be able to do that.
So seriously long story short never say “Here’s my number, text me.” Just don’t do it. Always ask her for her number.
3 – Don’t Point Attention To Her Body
Number three you will recognize if you saw this video which is how to not be creepy.
I’m gonna be perfectly honest with you guys it is hard for me to explain this without, I’m trying to do this as tactfully as I can.
Do not point inappropriate attention to her. For instance, do not say something like “Oh my goodness your legs are super hot” okay? Just don’t do it. Like at all.
She needs to feel like you see her as a person, not just a hot body.
Yes, when you are like married to her you can say things like that. But if you’re not married to her you have no business saying things like that.
That’ll come later and it’s cute and she wants to hear that at that point. But at this point when she’s getting to know you and when she’s first dating you no do not say those things.
What it does is it creeps her out and it makes her feel like you don’t care about her. Again it’s supposed to sound like a compliment and at the right time, from the right person, aka her husband, it is cute.
But until then it just freaks her out and creeps her out.
See I said that pretty tactfully, right? I think I should get brownie points for that.
4 – Don’t Say She Reminds You Of Someone
Number four is crippling guys and that is “Oh you remind me of my mom” or “You remind me of my sister.” Oh, she just died a little bit inside.
Just basically a good rule of thumb, is do not compare her to anyone else, okay? That’s just a really good strategy to follow.
But especially not a family member. That makes her feel like total friend zone, you’re not remotely interested, she’s crushed inside, and then moves on.
So don’t ever ever ever compare her to your mom or your sister or anything like that.
A Quick Question
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5 – Don’t Say Belittling Or Unkind Things
So let’s keep going with ten things you should never say to a girl. Number five is never say anything that is belittling or kind of hurtful in any way.
Now I know that sounds kind of obvious so let me explain a little bit.
We live in a time where so many people are saying “Oh play hard to get and give her the cold shoulder and act aloof and walk away so she’ll chase you” and things like that.
What that does is that hurts her.
And if she’s a toxic girl well then it’s probably going to get her attention because toxic women like drama. But the truth is you’re not looking for a toxic woman.
So yeah if she’s toxic that will probably work. But a girl who just honestly wants to love you for you and wants you to love her for her that is going to push her away so fast and it’s going to hurt her and make her not want to have anything to do with you.
So just make sure you’re not doing anything hurtful or unkind in any way because the truth is it’s not a good strategy.
6 – Don’t Compare Her To Your Ex
Number six. Never compare her to your ex in any way. Like “Oh my ex used to do that” or “Oh hey you remind me of my ex” or “You look a little bit like my ex.“
No. Don’t do it. That is one of the best ways to make sure she never talks to you ever again.
7 – Don’t Talk About Her Food
Number seven “Are you gonna eat that much?” or “Are you sure you should eat that?“
Don’t ever mention anything she is eating. Just don’t do that. It makes her feel judged and it makes her feel like she can’t be herself with you.
So yeah just be careful with that. That is a very very dangerous territory. So don’t talk about how much she eats or anything like that.
8 – Don’t Invalidate How She’s Feeling
Number eight. If she comes to you explaining how she’s feeling about something, like if she had a hard day at work, comes to you, and tries to explain what happened, never say something like “It’s not that big of a deal” or “I don’t know why you’re upset.“
As humans we need validation. That’s all we need. We need somebody to reassure us that we do matter and that our feelings and opinions matter.
So never make her feel like she can’t confide in you. It’s so much better to say “Wow I can see why that would upset you. I’m sorry that happened.“
That will make you her hero right there.
But saying something like “Well it’s not that big of a deal” that is going to crush her absolutely and it’s going to make her want to leave your life.
Now obviously there’s an exception with this if she’s hyper needy or something like that. But again that’s toxic women and I never teach you how to attract toxic women. That’s a whole other topic.
So yeah make sure she’s not super needy and super gossipy but validate her feelings, make her feel special to you, and like he wants to hear what she has to say.
9 – Don’t Say Another Women Is Hot
Number nine. And this one is probably the one that is like my pet peeve. Never tell her that you think another woman is hot, okay? Just don’t do that.
That is a really good way to make her hate you. Just don’t do it. Just like you wouldn’t like it if she said “Oh hey your friend is super hot” she doesn’t want to hear about anybody else in your life or any other celebrities who you think are super hot.
That is a really good way to crush her and make her feel like she can’t trust you. So just don’t say it.
10 – Don’t Ask If She Lost Weight
And we are to number ten and this is probably the most dangerous one guys. Seriously never say this ever.
Even if you are like in a serious relationship with this woman or when you are married to her never say this.
Never say “Have you lost weight?“
That sounds like a compliment, right? And you think “Oh hey I’m complimenting you.” That is not how it is to women.
What a woman hears when a man says “Have you lost weight?” is she hears “Whoa I must have looked so bad before for him to notice this.” And it crushes her and she’s embarrassed.
Or maybe she hasn’t lost weight. That happens more often than you think.
And so if somebody says “Hey have you lost weight?” when she hasn’t well then she thinks “Wow do I look terrible all the time? Is this the only time I don’t look super fat?“
And it crushes her especially in today’s society which unfortunately puts way too much emphasis on how much we weigh. So don’t talk about her weight at all, okay?
Don’t talk about how her clothes fit or anything like that.
Seriously memorize these things I just shared with you. These are the things you should never say.
Now that you know some of the things you should not say how would you like to become a boss at seeing the right thing and impressing her?
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