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13 Tips On How To Get A Girlfriend
Hello, my wonderful friend! Today’s video and article are titled 13 tips on how to get a girlfriend. These are easy, quick, and effective tips to get the girl of your dreams.
Honestly, this is the best part, these tips are going to help you get a good girlfriend. I’m talking about the kind of gal you want to become your wife someday.
So if you are tired of dead-end relationships that just aren’t happy or if you’re sick of never having a girlfriend and you’re ready to just move on, pay close attention to these tips.
They make getting the girl easy instead of really stressful. Each tip is so powerful, so make sure you read to the end.
Now before we dive into these tips, if this is your first time reading one of my articles, welcome! My name is Melannie. I’m a Christian dating coach for men.
I teach you how to stop wasting your time and money on bad dead-end relationships by learning the skills you need to just get the girl of your dreams.
I’m a certified coach. Everything I teach comes from my extensive research and training, as well as my insight as a woman.
The reason so many men struggle to get their ideal gal is that they’ve been taught tips and tricks that will get you a one-night fling.
Those tips and tricks are not going to work when you are looking for a happy, lifelong relationship. That’s one thing that sets what I teach apart from so much else on the internet.
If you’re frustrated, tried everything, and still can’t get the relationship you want, that’s the problem. You’ve been getting the tips and tricks for a one-night fling, but they won’t sustain a happy relationship.
If you’re interested in that happy lifelong relationship, you need the right skills. So with that, let’s dive in.
Tip #1: Create Clarity About Who You Want
Our first tip on how to get a girlfriend is to create clarity. If you saw this video (When A Woman Loses Interest It’s Because…), this is going to sound a little bit familiar but let me explain.
The very first thing I teach my clients in my program is that for you to get your dream girl, you need to know what that means to you. Because for each person it’s going to be a little bit different.
Why you do this is because you can’t get something if you don’t even know what it is you’re trying to get.
You will save so much time, you’ll save so much heartache if you just really become clear about the traits you are looking for in a woman.
This makes dating a million times easier. It helps you make sure you’re compatible and that you don’t settle.
If you want to get your dream girl, you need to know what that means first. That is the first step.
Tip #2: Know What Your Dream Girl Wants
Now my second tip on how to get a girlfriend is you need to become clear about what she wants. This is why I spend so much time in my program teaching what it is good Christian women want in a man.
Because the truth is if you’ve been taught what women who want a one-night fling are looking for it’s very different from a woman who’s looking for that happy, lifelong relationship.
If you have not yet seen this video (What Women Want In A Man), be sure to give it a watch. It will give you a good head start on knowing what it is women actually want in a man.
Tip #3: Eliminate The Competition
Now our next tip on how to get a girlfriend is probably going to surprise you. And that is making sure you eliminate the competition. Now, what in the world do I mean by that? Let me explain.
Here’s what you need to realize: The kind of woman I teach you how to get is the kind of woman you want to spend your life with.
The kind of woman who will be your biggest supporter, she’ll be your biggest cheerleader, she wants to love you like crazy.
This kind of woman, she wants to laugh with you, cry with you, make memories with you, be your absolute best friend, and she wants the two of you to have a full amount of love for your whole lives.
That’s the kind of woman I’m talking about. We’re talking about a high-quality woman. What you need to realize is every guy wants that kind of woman. He just does.
That makes sense, right? What this means is that you need to eliminate the competition. The way you eliminate the competition is by being her dream guy.
This is something I tell my clients all the time. The secret to getting your dream girl is to be her dream guy. When you are her dream guy, you have no competition because you’re the obvious answer, right?
So how do you do that? The way you do that is you learn what it is women actually want in a man, and you turn those qualities into habits so that it’s just a part of who you are.
And then you are irresistible to her, you are a magnet for her, you have become her dream man.
Now you must do this in a way that lets you stay true to who you are. This is never about changing who you are. You develop those qualities, turn them into habits, and stay true to you as a person.
Because one thing that good women really do want is she wants you to be real and genuine and you. It’s never about changing who you are.
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Everything I talk about in this article, I go so much more in-depth and teach you step by step how to make dating and relationships easy for you in my program.
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Tip #4: Learn How To Small Talk
All right, our next tip on how to get a girlfriend is to brush up on your small talk. When you are comfortable making small talk, everything is so much easier.
Flirting, texting her, going on a date, approaching her, etc., is so much easier when you are comfortable making small talk naturally and quickly.
It also makes interacting with gorgeous women so much more comfortable and so much more fun.
So if you are ever afraid of looking awkward or if you feel awkward, this tip is going to help you so much. Make sure you brush up on your small talk.
Tip #5: Good Personal Style
Our next tip on how to get a girlfriend is to keep your personal style on point. Your goal should always be to look modern, sharp, masculine, and confident.
Yes, we all have days where we have to run to the grocery store in our sweatpants, and that’s okay. It’s not about being obsessive.
But one of the best things you can do for yourself is to make sure you’re always dressing sharp, always have your facial hair sharp, and making sure you have your hairstyle sharp.
What this does is, yes, it’s super attractive to her, and she likes to see you like that. It increases her attraction for you.
But also, research shows that when we dress up nice and feel and look sharp and put together, you’re more likely to flirt and approach her. You’ll feel calm and at ease and natural with all of these things.
So do yourself a favor and look and feel really sharp. P.S. I’m actually thinking about putting together a video for you guys on winter styles that women love.
If you would like that video, comment “winter” in the comments below to let me know that you would like to see that.
Tip #6: Have A Game Plan For Every Situation
Now my next tip on how to get a girlfriend is to have a game plan for everything. What I mean by this is if you know step by step how to approach her, then it’s not stressful and scary, right?
If you have a game plan step by step for how to text her, flirt with her, get her number, ask her out, how to act on the date, then it’s not stressful because you’re no longer trying to wing it or fake it.
It’s terrifying to do something that feels vulnerable without knowing what you’re doing. But when you know what you’re doing, you’ll still feel some nervousness, but you’ll be comfortable, confident, and natural.
And then, instead, you can focus on having fun with this cute girl. That sounds way better than freaking out, am I right?
As I mentioned, I do talk about a game plan in that free masterclass. So if you’re feeling overwhelmed or even if you just want to fast track it, do make sure you give that masterclass a watch.
Tip #7: Avoid Toxic Women
Okay, my next tip on how to get a girlfriend is to make sure you can identify toxic women and avoid them. Dating a toxic woman is one of the best ways to have a miserable relationship, and frankly, a miserable life.
A toxic relationship is always something you want to avoid. But the hard part is toxic people are really tricky, and they’re really good at making it look like they’re not toxic at first.
Therefore it’s critical if you are going to get your dream girl that you make sure you get your dream girl instead of a nightmare.
Be sure to watch this video on toxic girlfriend signs if you haven’t yet. It will get you started being able to know how to avoid toxic women so you can instead find a good girl.
A lot of people think, “well, this is as good as relationships get.” That is completely and totally wrong. If that’s been your experience, it’s because you’ve been in bad relationships, and it’s time to instead have a good one.
Tip #8: Set Boundaries
Now my next tip on how to get a girlfriend is to set appropriate boundaries. I’m gonna let you in on a secret. If you’ve been following me for a while, you’ve probably heard me mention this. Girls like nice guys.
As a matter of fact, girls love nice guys. And girls who are looking for a lifelong relationship, not the girls looking for a one-night fling, the girls looking for a lifelong relationship, a nice guy is a deal-breaker.
If he’s a nice guy, she wants to spend her life with him. If he’s not, she doesn’t.
So why then do some really nice guys never get a girlfriend? Well, a critical thing is you have to be a nice guy who sets boundaries, a nice guy who’s assertive.
Nobody’s attracted to a pushover. They’re just not. Nobody’s attracted to someone who has no self-respect. So be a nice guy, but be a nice guy who sets appropriate boundaries, who’s assertive.
That makes her feel safer with you, makes you more confident and more masculine, and therefore more attractive.
Tip #9: Show Interest In Her
Okay, my next tip for you is to show that you are interested in her. This is critical.
If you do not show her that you are interested in her, she’s going to assume you’re not. And that’s kind of like rejection, that’s kind of hurtful, and that’s the fastest way to end up in the friend zone.
If you find yourself in the friend zone a lot, you need to take this very seriously. You must show her you’re interested. This is why pursuing is so important.
About 80% of communication is non-verbal. So it really is true that actions speak louder than words. It’s critical that you actually ask her out instead of just admiring her across the room.
It’s critical that you get her number, that you flirt with her. You need to show her that you’re interested. You need to lead out in the relationship.
This makes you more masculine, more attractive, and helps her understand, “oh, he’s interested in me.” That helps her see you as a potential partner instead of you in the friend zone.
If you want to be more than friends, you must let her know that.
Tip #10: Take A Risk
Okay, my next tip on how to get a girlfriend is you need to be willing to take a risk. Dating and relationships require we get out of our comfort zones. Yeah, that’s a little uncomfortable for everyone, including her.
But the honest truth is you will never have a good relationship if you never take a risk.
The good thing is when you have a game plan and know step by step how to approach, ask her out, flirt, etc., well then it’s not terrifying and stressful like it would be if you were just guessing and winging it.
Another good thing is the more we step outside of our comfort zone, the bigger it expands. And so the things that at first felt terrifying become natural and automatic and easy pretty quickly.
The important part is you’ve got to take that first step, you’ve got to be willing to take that risk, and you’ve got to get out of your comfort zone.
Otherwise, you’re going to stay where you are, and you’re going to stay there alone. Isn’t it time to stop waiting around to live?
Tip #11: Do Not Become Emotionally Attached Too Soon
Okay, my next tip is to not marry her before you marry her. What in the world does that mean? This is something I tell my clients over and over again in my program.
Here’s the deal: When we meet someone who we think is attractive, it’s completely normal to suddenly start thinking, “oh my goodness, are they the one?“
And then start dreaming our lives together and pretty soon emotionally, we feel like we’re married to this person. That’s a very normal thing.
The problem is you’re not yet married to her. And the truth is as you get to know her better, you may not even really like her that much, or you may find that you’re not compatible.
Therefore it’s critical to make sure you don’t emotionally commit to her before you’re committed.
What this does is it puts a ton of pressure on you and it puts a ton of pressure on her because she can sense that you feel like you’re closer than you are and it messes up the relationship.
This sets you up for heartbreak and makes it very hard to not take things personally. When you’re dating and getting to know people, you mustn’t take things personally.
The truth is it’s not personal. It’s just about seeing if you work. So make sure you don’t marry her before you marry her.
Tip #12: Don’t Move Too Fast Or Too Slow
This naturally leads us to our next tip, which is to make sure you move at the right pace.
If you move too quickly, it puts tons of pressure on both of you. It clouds your judgment, makes it harder to tell if you’re compatible, and it messes up the relationship. Even a relationship that could have been amazing.
On the flip side, if you move too slow, you don’t really have a relationship, and this will also cause you to lose her.
Relationships are kind of a big deal. It’s about two people and their emotions and their background and everything they’re trying to work through.
You must move at the right pace. That’s what sets your relationship up for success. That’s what shows her your maturity and helps you maintain that happy relationship.
Moving at the wrong pace, that alone can cause what could have been a lifelong relationship to end. So again, you must move at the right pace.
Tip #13: Make Sure She Feels Comfortable
Now my next tip on how to find a girlfriend is to focus on making her feel comfortable.
You can guarantee that if she feels uncomfortable, she’s done. She’s completely and totally done. So make sure that you are focusing on making her feel comfortable when she’s around you.
This comes down to how you act around her, what you say, the type of dates you take her on, how you flirt, and how you interact with her.
These are all things that will either make her feel uncomfortable or will make her feel comfortable and like she can trust you and safe with you.
This is again why having that game plan I mentioned is so important. And when you’re able to make her feel comfortable with you, oh my goodness, you just increased her attraction for you dramatically.
13 Tips On How To Get A Girlfriend Recap
All right, let’s sum up what you have learned so far about how to get a girlfriend.
- You need to create clarity about what you actually want. It’s hard to find something if you don’t really know what you’re looking for.
- Make sure you create clarity about what she wants. What is it your dream girl is even looking for?
- Eliminate the competition. When you are the obvious answer, you have no competition, right? So make sure you become her dream man, and then there is no competition.
- Brush up on your small talk. This makes everything natural, so easy, and a whole lot more fun.
- Keep your personal style on point. This increases her attraction for you, but it also makes you feel more confident. It makes you more likely to flirt, pursue, and meet more women.
- Have a game plan for everything. This takes dating from super stressful and awkward to fun, natural, and enjoyable.
- Make sure you can spot toxic women. You must avoid toxic women if you want to find your dream girl.
- Set appropriate boundaries. If you’re the nice guy who never gets the girl, this is the game-changer. Make sure you’re assertive, not a pushover, and that you set appropriate boundaries.
- Show her you are interested in her. If you treat her like you just want to be friends, that’s how you end up in the friend zone.
- Take a risk. It’s uncomfortable, but the more you step outside of your comfort zone, the bigger it expands. You’ve got to risk something if you’re going to get what you really want. That’s life.
- Do not marry her before you marry her. Do not emotionally commit before you’re actually committed to her.
- Move at the right pace. Too fast and you’ll lose her, too slow and you’ll lose her. You must treat the relationship with respect.
- Focus on making her feel comfortable. Learning the right dating and relationship skills are what’s going to help you do that.
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