Never Chase A Girl When She Pulls Away (avoid these 7 mistakes that ruin her interest in you!) Ever wonder why girls pull away or why girls reject guys? The truth is, you should never chase your girlfriend especially when she pulls away.
BUT you do need to know what to do when she pulls away so pay close attention. When a girl starts to lose interest it’s a sign that you need to do something and do it fast (I’ll tell you what in the video). In this video you’ll also learn why women reject men and a bit about how to get her back when she pulls away.
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Never Chase A Girl When She Pulls Away
Hello, my wonderful friend! Today’s video and article are titled never chase a girl when she pulls away. Avoid these 7 mistakes that ruin her interest in you.
Have you ever had feelings for a gorgeous gal, but she started to pull away, and you didn’t know why and you didn’t know what to do? 🤔 It’s painful, right? That’s never a situation you want to find yourself in.
Would you like to get her back? First, you need to know why this happens, and you need to know these big mistakes. Because if you’re making them, you’re going to lose her permanently. ❌
You need to know what to do instead so you can move forward in a positive direction. Does that sound good? That’s what we’re going to be covering in this article, so make sure you read to the end.
Before I share these mistakes with you, if this is your first time watching one of my videos, welcome! My name is Melannie. I’m a Christian dating coach for men.
I teach you how to stop wasting time and energy on bad and dead-end relationships that go nowhere by learning the skills you need to instead have your dream girl and dream relationship.
The best part is I’m a certified coach, so what I teach is based on and backed by science instead of mind games. So if you’re looking for a no mind games approach, this is the place for you.
Never chase a girl when she pulls away. It’s not effective and does not work. If you feel her pulling away and want to know how to get her back, you need to know these things so pay very close attention.
#1: Why Chasing A Girl Doesn’t Work
The first thing you need to know about why you should never chase a girl when she pulls away is that chasing actually doesn’t work. So mistake number one is chasing her in the first place.
If you ever felt like you needed to chase her at any point in the relationship, don’t. That’s going to cause your relationship to fail, not go anywhere, and be stressful. 😬
So why does chasing a girl not work? When one person is chasing the other, then the other is running away from them, right? That’s not any kind of a relationship.
Instead, you want a relationship where both people are close. That’s a real relationship. But if one person is always chasing the other, you never get anywhere, right? You never have the closeness you’re looking for.
So ultimately, chasing doesn’t work. Instead, you need to learn and understand the basics of a healthy relationship and what creates a healthy relationship.
Chasing is not included in a healthy relationship. Only by understanding what a healthy relationship is can you actually create that.
And that’s how you create the closeness you want. Two people who are crazy in love with each other, who are loyal and supportive, who are close. Does that make sense so far?
#2: What Does It Mean To Pursue Women?
The next thing you need to understand about why you should never chase a girl when she pulls away, and our next mistake is not understanding what pursuing means.
There’s a big difference between pursuing and chasing. We just discussed why chasing is not effective, why it doesn’t work, and why it’s a terrible idea.
But pursuing, pursuing a woman, oh my goodness, that lights a fire in her soul, guys. That makes her insanely attracted to you. God created women to be attracted to men who pursue them.
You need to understand what pursuing means. Because chasing a woman is not the same as pursuing a woman. 💡
And I’m going to be completely transparent with you: It’s not your fault if you misunderstand what it means to pursue. So many people are teaching you lies about what it means to pursue women.
It’s really not your fault that they’re teaching you the wrong things. So let me clear the air and briefly explain what pursuing the right way entails.
Pursuing her the right way means that you understand how to read her signals. It involves the right mindset and moving with the right pacing.
Pursuing her means you understand how to interact with her the right way and let her know you are interested in her and attracted to her. ✅
It’s flirting with her all in a way that builds attraction instead of scares her away. Because chasing is a great way to scare her away.
Honestly, this is why I love teaching these principles in my program and to my clients.
Because when you have the right mindset and understand how to read her signals and be confident, they’re powerful tools, and they don’t require any kind of mind games.
This is how you get the girl the right way. This is how you pursue women the right way.
But if instead, you’re pursuing the wrong way, which is the way most people teach you, you’re going to freak her out.
That will cause her to pull away, and that’s what’s going to cause her to lose interest, to walk away because it’s freaking her out. 😰
Do you want to reattract her and stop being in that situation where women reject you, and you have no idea why? Then you need to make sure you understand how to pursue the right way.
#3: Learn Why Women Lose Interest
This leads us to the next mistake that will ruin her interest in you. And this is not educating yourself about why women pull away.
Why does that even happen? 👉 If you don’t understand why women lose interest, how are you going to prevent it? You can’t, right? So you must understand why women pull away.
I explain this more in this video (How To Reattract Her When She Loses Interest), so make sure you watch that to learn more. But I’m going to briefly sum up here.
Two common reasons women pull away are one, she’s toxic. But I’m not teaching you how to attract toxic women, so we’re not gonna go there in this article.
But the second and most common reason is if you don’t have those dating and relationship basics and don’t understand how to create a healthy relationship.
Initially, she’s attracted to you. But then she thinks, “wait, he doesn’t know how to have a healthy relationship. He won’t make a good lifelong partner. I’ve got to go find someone who will,” so she loses interest.
You would do the same, so that makes sense, right? If you frequently have women who lose interest or pull away, it’s a sign that you need additional skills. 👈 It’s as simple as that.
I have a free masterclass for you that teaches you the three biggest mistakes that cause you to stay alone forever, that cause this vicious cycle to keep going.
And I also teach you the three big secrets to instead getting the girl of your absolute dream. So you want to make sure you know what’s in that masterclass, right? It’s going to create some real clarity for you.
If you’re tired of being rejected, women pulling away, having so much to offer, and not knowing why you’re single, make sure you watch my free masterclass.
#4: Being Aggressive Is Not What Women Want
The next thing you need to know about why women pull away, and a huge mistake men make, is being too aggressive.
A lot of people teach you that being aggressive is pursuing. It’s not. That’s a great way to only attract toxic women. 😬
A lot of people will tell you that you have to be dominant to win her heart. That’s a bunch of nonsense. She’s looking for a real human being to be in a relationship with. She’s not looking for a bulldog, okay? Yes, I said it.
Again, this is why understanding the appropriate way to pursue her is critical. She wants a real human being, not an overly aggressive bulldog.
Another thing that causes men to come across as too aggressive is being emotionally committed to her before you should be.
Something I mention in my program over and over again is, do not marry her before you marry her. It’s common to meet somebody cute, to be attracted, and say, “yes, she’s the one.“
But what that does is it puts a ton of pressure on her. She doesn’t even know you yet or how she feels about you, because frankly, you haven’t gotten to know each other yet.
Until you’re at the point where you should be in a relationship and are committed to each other, do not be emotionally committed. That will freak her out and cause her to pull away so fast. Does that make sense?
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#5: Understand How To Not Be Needy
The next thing you need to know about why you should never chase a woman when she pulls away is being too needy is a big mistake. And chasing her is very needy.
Let’s just talk for a second about what makes a person needy. Well, someone is needy if they have low self-esteem, if they lack confidence, and frankly if they’re feeling desperate.
Desperation makes someone very needy. They have no idea how to get their dream girl, they have no idea what they’re doing, nothing they’ve ever tried has worked, and they become desperate.
Have you ever felt that way? If you have, it’s a little normal, so don’t beat yourself up about it. 👍
But when you rely on her for your feelings of self-worth, if you need constant approval, attention, and validation, that is draining to her. That is exhausting to her.
She needs a man who can stand on his own two feet. And if you’re needy, you are pushing her away.
So how do you fix this, right? Because the obvious goal here is to fix it and to no longer push her away.
This is again why those skills are so critical and why gaining confidence is so important.
I love teaching people about confidence. When you are confident, so many other things fall into place naturally. And when you’re a confident person, you are not a needy person. 👈 Does that make sense?
#6: Women Pursue You As Well
Okay, the next mistake that is very easy to make but causes her to pull away is being completely clueless about how she pursues you.
I get comments all the time from men saying, “why do I have to put in all the work? Why do I have to do all the work?“
You don’t have to do all the work. As a matter of fact, if you do have to do all the work you’re hanging out with the wrong types of women, okay?
What it comes down to is men and women both pursue. It just looks different because men are masculine, and women are feminine, right? God created us differently.
So the way she pursues you is going to look different from the way you pursue her. 💡
But just like we talked about earlier, in a healthy relationship, there’s that closeness, right? This means she is pursuing you while you are pursuing her.
If she’s a classy, high-quality woman, then she’s actively pursuing you, interested in you, and invested in the relationship and getting to know you better. Women are just going to pursue you differently.
Now many men have no idea how to pick up on these signals and know that she’s trying to pursue them too. This is one of the benefits of having a female coach.
As a woman, she thinks her pursuing you is really obvious, okay? She thinks she’s being astonishingly obvious that she’s interested in you.
But if you don’t know how to pick up on that, ouch, that’s rejection. She’s hurt, she’s really hurt, she’s embarrassed, she’s mortified. Why did she even try?
And so she’s gonna go find somebody else who does pick up on those signals and who does reciprocate the feelings she’s trying to show.
If you don’t see those signs, yeah, she’s going to pull away. ❌ And if you don’t act fast, she’s going to pull away permanently.
If you want this vicious cycle to stop, you need to understand how women think and how to read those signs, and again how to pursue appropriately.
#7: Why Playing Mind Games Pushes Women Away
Okay, next up on why you should never chase a girl when she pulls away, a huge mistake people make is trying to play games with her.
Ignoring her, walking away, the no contact rule, making her miss you. That’s manipulation, okay? Those are mind games.
How in the world can you create a good relationship, a healthy relationship, a positive relationship, by using negative mind games? 🤔 You can’t, can you?
Want to know the way to lose a really good girl fast? Play mind games with her.
Toxic women love mind games. A lot of people teach you these mind game tactics because they do work on toxic women.
But toxic women aren’t worth being in a relationship with. You don’t want a toxic relationship, do you? Then you want to avoid mind games because they only work on toxic women.
If you haven’t yet seen this video (How To Make Her Miss You: The Untold Truth), make sure you watch it to learn more about why mind games destroy relationships.
So what do you do instead? When you start to feel her pull away, it’s hurtful, right? 💔 And you can become a little bit desperate.
Sometimes mind games feel really appealing because it’s kind of a quick fix that a lot of people just hope, “oh, I’ll just ignore her for 90 days, and then all of a sudden she’ll love me again.“
But what do you do instead? Because mind games don’t work. All that’s going to do is push her further and further away from you.
Here’s your answer: No matter your dating and relationship challenge or question the answer is always that you need to learn the right dating and relationship skills and you need the right game plan. 💡
Your game plan is how to actually use those skills and use them effectively. 🚀 When you have the right skills and the right game plan, dating and relationships are fun.
With the right skills, relationships are easy and automatic, and attracting a classy, high-quality woman is easy. It’s not something that you have to stress over. Does that make sense?
I teach you more about this in my free masterclass I told you about, so do make sure you watch it.
Never Chase A Girl When She Pulls Away – Recap
Okay, let’s sum up what you have learned already about why you should never chase a girl when she pulls away and the mistakes that will ruin her interest in you.
First up, chasing never works. You don’t want a relationship where one is always running from the other, right?
👉 You want a relationship where there’s closeness. So anytime there is chasing involved in a relationship, it’s not going to work.
The next mistake is not understanding what pursuing should actually look like. Again it’s not your fault if you don’t understand this because most people teach you a lot of nonsense.
But if you don’t understand what pursuing should look like, it will cause you to push her away. And if you want to stop that and instead have closeness, you must know what appropriate pursuing is.
The next mistake is not educating yourself about why women pull away. You can’t prevent it if you don’t know what’s causing it, right? 💡 That just makes sense.
The next mistake is being aggressive. A woman doesn’t want someone dominant. Not if she’s classy and not if she’s a high-quality woman.
She’s looking for a real human being. ✅ Someone with who she can be in a happy, healthy relationship with. Not a bulldog who’s always trying to be dominant.
It’s also critical that you are not emotionally committed before you’re actually committed to each other. This causes you to come across as aggressive, freaks her out, and makes her pull away.
Our next mistake is very similar, and it’s being needy. When you’re needy you can also be aggressive, but neediness really comes from low self-esteem.
It causes you to always need her approval and validation. That’s exhausting to her, it’s draining to her, it’s not an equal partnership, so she’s done.
The solution to this is getting that healthy confidence and understanding the basics of a healthy relationship.
Another massive mistake is being clueless about when she’s pursuing you and what her signals look like. Women pursue just like men it merely looks different. 👈
And if you don’t know how to read that, it will cause her to pull away because she feels rejected.
So if you want to change that, make sure you understand what it looks like when a woman is pursuing you.
Another massive mistake is playing mind games with her. Making her miss you, trying the no contact rule, ignoring her, all of these things, they don’t work. They only work on toxic women.
So if you play those mind games with her, she’s going to pull away farther and farther. And that’s not what you want.
Instead, you need to understand those dating and relationship basics so you can instead be a magnet 🧲 for her instead of her pushing away.
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