How To Flirt With Women 😏 Knowing how to flirt with girls is a large part of knowing how to get a girl to like you and how to get a girlfriend.
If you are wondering how to flirt with a woman, how to talk to a girl, how to impress a girl and how to approach girls, this video is for YOU.
There are some big misunderstandings about what it actually means to flirt with a woman. This is what makes flirting awkward, creepy, or unsuccessful. That is NOT the result you want.
✅ Instead, you’ll now understand what makes you unsuccessful AND how to instead charm and impress your dream girl! Sound good? Let’s get started then with How to Flirt With Women!
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How To Flirt With Women
Hello, my wonderful friend! Today’s video and article are on how to flirt with women. But not just how to flirt with women, how to successfully flirt with women. 👈
I’m going to be perfectly honest with you. There are some massive misunderstandings out there about what it means to flirt with women.
And these misunderstandings are what makes it awkward, creepy, and what cause you to get rejected. You don’t want that. Instead, I’m going to teach you how to be successful.
We’re going to move past all those misunderstandings because you don’t deserve to be held back by those misunderstandings and lies, right?
Make sure you pay close attention and read to the end because each of these tips is very important. Before we dive in, if this is your first time reading one of my articles, welcome!
My name is Melannie. I’m a Christian dating coach for men. I teach you how to find, attract, and keep the girl of your dreams. ✅
And the best part is I’m a certified coach. I never teach you “mind games” or tricks that frankly do not work. With that, let’s get started on how to flirt with women!
If you saw this video (Signs She Likes You: This Is How Women Pursue Men), then you know that one of the ways women pursue you and let you know that they’re interested in you is by flirting.
And I asked you in that video if you wanted a video on signs that she’s flirting with you. Because sometimes it’s hard to tell, right?
You loved the idea. 🎉 I had so many comments from you guys saying, “Yes, please make that video,” so I made this video on signs she’s flirting with you.
In the comments to that video, you said you wanted a video specifically on how to flirt with women. But if you haven’t seen those two previous videos, make sure you watch them as well. They will help you a lot.
How To Flirt With Women Tip #1 – Mind Games Are Not Flirting
Okay, my first tip that you must know for how to flirt with women is that flirting is never hot, cold, hot, cold. It’s never push-pull.
There’s a lot of misunderstanding on this and frankly a lot of lies about this. A toxic relationship has that push and pull. Toxic relationships exist because of mind games.
💡 A healthy relationship has two people who like each other, and they’re interested in the relationship. They’re invested in getting to know each other better.
Any kind of relationship that has that hot, cold, hot, cold, that’s not a happy relationship. That’s not a fulfilling relationship. It won’t lead you to success.
Some examples of how people use this in flirting are playing hard to get, ignoring her for so many days then talking to her again, the whole idea of if you stop caring she starts chasing.
All of that and more are toxic tactics to get someone’s attention through lies, deception, and manipulation. Mind games try to force a relationship to happen. ❌ That is not flirting.
At the end of the day, what flirting really is at its core is saying, “Hey, you’re cute. Hey, I’m cute. Let’s get to know each other better.” That’s all it is.
The whole purpose of flirting is to let somebody know you’re interested in them. That’s it. And these mind games, this push-pull, this hot-cold, that’s not how you do it.
Now that can be a little bit scary. It requires a little bit of vulnerability, okay? You have to be a little bit vulnerable to let somebody know, “Hey, you’re cute, I noticed you, and you should notice me too.“
Flirting requires we be vulnerable. But guess what. If you’re not confident enough to be vulnerable, that’s where you need to start, is on gaining confidence. 💡 That just makes sense, right?
So realize that these fake tactics that people call flirting, it’s not flirting. It’s mind games. And if you have a relationship that starts with mind games, it will end with mind games. That’s not what you want.
I have done several videos on these mind games and why they don’t work. I’ve put them together in a playlist called Dating Myths And Mistakes.
Make sure you watch that. It’s going to help you so much to sort through these lies and misunderstandings. The bottom line, this push-pull, hot and cold, those are mind games that do not lead to happy relationships.
Instead, you need to embrace the fact that flirting means showing you’re interested. 👈
Tip #2 – Flirting With Women Is Good, But Is Not Everything
My next tip for how to flirt with women is critical. If you’re going to be successful flirting with women, you need to know this, so pay close attention.
Flirting is not a fix-all. That is the best piece of advice I can give you when it comes to flirting. It’s important, and it’s fun, and you should do it, but it’s not a fix-all.
Personally, I believe that flirting should be a priority because relationships are more fun when you flirt. And the whole goal here is to have someone you can flirt with your whole life, right?
So yes, flirting is important. But far too many people put all their eggs in one basket, so to speak, and they think if they can just figure out how to flirt and charm her with flirting that it’ll just all work out from there.
👉 That’s not how it works. This is how you get ghosted after a couple of dates, or this is how you find yourself in breakup after breakup, and you have no idea why.
Flirting is important, but what’s more important and what’s going to back up all your flirting efforts is making sure that you have the right dating and relationship skills.
What your dream girl is looking for, I’m gonna let you in on some insight on what women want, is she’s looking for a lifelong relationship.
And so she’s looking for someone that makes her think, “Wow, he would be an incredible partner.” Therefore one of the traits he needs is knowing how to flirt with women.
She’s not looking for someone just to flirt with them. 💡 Your dream girl is looking for someone who would make a fabulous lifelong partner.
This means you need to make sure that you have the dating and relationship skills and the game plan you need to show her that you would be an incredible lifelong partner.
Because the truth is you would, you just need to make sure you can show her that. Otherwise, it doesn’t matter, right?
Let’s imagine instead you know what you’re doing and know how to take things to the next level. Now you stop being ghosted and instead attract her easily, charm her, and show her you are her dream man.
That sounds way better, right? ✅ My program, How To Get A Girlfriend, teaches you how to do this. If you want a happy lifelong relationship, you need to know these things.
One of the biggest mistakes that keep so many awesome men single is assuming they know these things when in reality, they don’t. So do not assume that you know these things. Instead, make sure you know them.
Tip #3 – Don’t Be Needy Or Aggressive. Instead Be…
Okay, our next tip for how to flirt with women is to make sure you pursue confidently instead of needy or super aggressively.
Your whole goal here is to be successful when you flirt with her, right? It’s to attract her and help her want to get to know you better, right?
Well, if you are needy or aggressive, she’s not going to want to get to know you any better. It’s not going to attract her. ❌ If it’s awkward or if it creeps her out, she’s done. She doesn’t want to go there.
So the key instead is to make sure you understand how to pursue confidently. There are two steps to confidence, two pieces to becoming confident.
I love teaching this to my clients in my program because it’s so effective. First, you need that healthy self-love and those feelings of self-worth. That’s important. But also, you need to be competent.
When you know how to do something, you naturally feel confident in it, right? If you just know you’re good at something, then you’re confident in it.
The same is true with dating and relationships. 💡 That’s why those skills I talked about earlier are so helpful and so important. But the key here is to make sure you are competent in dating and relationships.
This is why some men can be so incredibly competent in other areas in their life but they haven’t learned those dating and relationship skills.
The lack of dating and relationship skills makes them awkward or creepy, and she’s not looking for a guy who’s awkward or creepy.
As a matter of fact, if you find yourself in the friend zone a lot, this is probably why. She’s willing to be friends with someone a little bit awkward. That’s okay. But she doesn’t want to date them.
This is why you need to make sure you learn those dating and relationship skills. And again, my program teaches you about this, watch my free masterclass to learn all about it. 👈
Do You Want More On How To Flirt With Women?
Before we get to our next tip, I have a quick question for you. Are you enjoying this video on how to flirt with women, and my previous video on signs she’s flirting with you? Would you like more videos on flirting?
If you would, let me know. I love getting feedback from you, so comment “flirt” in the description below if you’re enjoying this and want more.
And if you have any specific questions about flirting, please leave those in the comments so I can make a video about those very soon. I love to hear from you, so talk to me in the comments! 🎉
Tip #4 – Why Flirting Is An Essential Part Of The Process
Okay, my next tip for you on how to flirt with women is to remember that flirting is not a lifetime commitment. And that’s a positive thing. Take the pressure off yourself. This is not a do or die situation.
All flirting is, is saying, “Hey, you’re cute. Hey, I’m cute. Let’s get to know each other better.” That’s it.
This is not, “Will you marry me? Oh my goodness, take my heart, I’m madly in love with you.” That’s not what flirting is.
Properly flirting is two people trying to decide if they want to get to know each other better. And then once they get to know each other better, do they want to get to know each other even better? ✅
If you give your heart to her too soon, that’s setting yourself up for heartache. So instead, just realize this is two people saying, “Hey, you’re cute. Do we want to get to know each other better?”
That’s the first thing you need to know. The second thing you need to know is the same applies to your dream girl.
If she flirts with you initially, all she’s trying to do is see if she wants to get to know you better. That’s it. This means you need to have those dating and relationship skills to back you up. 💡
I know I’ve said this a million times, and here’s the reason why. I can’t tell you how many comments and emails I get every single day from men who are heartbroken because they thought she was interested in them.
They took a risk, which is so brave, I’m so proud of them for doing that, but then it fails. Why does it fail? It’s because they didn’t have the skills they needed to back it up.
This is why I preach this, and I will preach this until the end of time because I don’t want you to get your heart broken, okay?
You need skills, and you need a game plan. My program How To Get A Girlfriend teaches you about all of this and more. Watch my free masterclass right now learn all about it.
👉 Just remember that she’s not making a lifetime commitment either, which is why you need those skills.
Yes, flirting helps you initially attract her, and it’s fun, and you should enjoy it. You just need to make sure you can also show her that you make a great lifelong partner. Make sense?
How To Flirt With Women – Recap
Okay, let’s sum up what you have learned so far about how to flirt with women.
The first thing is that flirting is not about mind games. It’s not about hot and cold, it’s not about push-pull, it’s not about playing hard to get.
Instead, flirting is about being vulnerable and showing her that you are interested. ✅
My second tip for how to flirt with women is to think long term. Don’t put all your eggs in one basket, so to speak. Flirting is not a fix-all. It’s just kind of an initial first step.
Make sure you can back up that flirting with the right dating and relationship skills.
My next tip is to make sure you pursue confidently instead of needy or aggressive. Confidence comes from knowing what you’re doing and being competent.
If it’s needy and awkward and aggressive and creepy, that’s going to cause flirting to fail every single time. So instead, you gotta come from that place of confidence and competence. 👈
And the next thing you need to know about how to flirt with women is that flirting is not a lifetime commitment. And if you go in with that mindset, you’re going to set yourself up for success instead of heartache.
Remember, it’s not a lifetime commitment for you or for her. So take the pressure off and do again realize that you’ve gotta back up your flirting skills with other dating and relationship skills.
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