Toxic Girlfriend Signs (It’s Not You, It’s Her!) Toxic women can be hard to recognize. If you don’t know the signs you are in a toxic relationship you could totally be in one without knowing it! Toxic women signs are basically the same as adult bully signs. Thankfully, once you know them you will be prepared to spot the red flags of a toxic relationship. Wondering if you have a toxic girlfriend or know a toxic woman? You’ll be very relieved by what you learn today! Let’s get started with Toxic Girlfriend Signs (It’s Not You, It’s Her!)
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Hello my wonderful friend! Today we are going to talk about Toxic Girlfriend Signs: It’s Not You, It’s Her. What you are about to learn comes from my extensive, extensive research as well as my training as a certified coach. And sadly I have had a lot of real-life experience with toxic people so trust me when I say what you are about to learn is going to leave you feeling very, very relieved.
Now a while back I did a video on Signs of a Toxic Girlfriend and you guys really enjoyed it, but especially lately I’ve noticed people are watching it like crazy and commenting and asking me about it. And the truth is, during the lockdown, a lot of people are spending a lot more focused time with significant others, even if it’s just over text or video or something, and a lot of people are realizing “I don’t really like the way I feel around them.” Or they’re spending so much time away from them and they’re starting to feel really good not spending time with them and that is leading a lot of people to ask “Are they toxic?” With this in mind I just knew I had to make another video on this topic because as I mentioned earlier it is such a relief when you do learn these things.
Quick story for you. I have a friend who is such an awesome guy, I just love this man. Sadly though he is married to a toxic woman but he doesn’t know it. She tells him all the time “Well, it’s just you. You just have to do it better.” or “You just have to do what I say more.” and he honestly believes that it’s all his fault. He honestly believes that she’s a really good person and he just doesn’t love her enough or he’s just too hard to live with or he’s just too picky. He honestly believes it’s him. Now have you ever seen in a movie or read in a book or something when it’s the break-up scene and someone says to the other person “Well, it’s not you, it’s me.” Probably heard that, right? Well when it comes to toxic people, this is something I tell my clients over and over again, when it comes to a toxic woman it’s not you, it’s her.
Toxic people want you to believe it’s you all day long because then they can get away with it. And so sadly toxic people prey on really nice people. Now that obviously does not mean you shouldn’t be nice. Being a good person is a pretty good life goal, right? It’s not that you can’t be nice. You can totally be a very nice person and actually repel toxic people. Yes, I said repel. That’s pretty exciting, right? So as long as you have the right skills, you have to have the right skills to do that, but as long as you have the right skills you can repel toxic people and be a nice person. So I’m not saying don’t be nice, but be aware that toxic people all day long are going to try to get you to believe that it is you when actually it’s her. So with that in mind let’s go over some signs of a toxic girlfriend. If you are seeing these signs it’s probably pretty safe to assume that it’s not you, it’s her.
1 – She’s Never Wrong
Toxic girlfriend sign number one is that she is never wrong. Have you ever known someone who’s just never wrong? It doesn’t matter what you’re talking about they’re always right. It doesn’t matter if you’re working on a project together or maybe if you’re making a recipe for dinner or her political views or who she thinks is going to win the football game, whatever it is, if she can never be wrong that’s a huge red flag of a toxic woman.
This is also true if you try and work on anything in the relationship. Maybe if you try and explain to her “Well, when you say these things it makes me feel this way and it makes me feel bad. Could you please stop saying those things?” But she’s never wrong and so she “No! No! It’s you, it’s not me.” Whatever it is, if she’s always right, if she’s never wrong, well then you can kind of guarantee she is wrong because she’s toxic.
2 – She Complains A Lot
Sign number two of a toxic woman or a toxic girlfriend is that she complains a lot. Have you ever been around someone who complains a lot and you just felt drained and exhausted? This is one of the main reasons why you don’t want to be in a relationship with someone like that because it’s draining. If you notice that she complains about you, her job, her family, her friends, her hair, where she lives, if she’s always complaining that is a very, very good sign that she is toxic.
The truth is, you don’t want to be around someone who drains you all the time, right? So if you notice that she’s always complaining even if it’s subtle, she may not be obvious about it, but if she’s always complaining that’s a good sign that it’s not you, it’s her, she’s probably toxic.
3 – She Annoys You On Purpose
Okay, so this next sign is kind of a pet peeve of mine. It drives me crazy because I see it all the time. This sign is that she annoys you on purpose. Okay, so when I was growing up I knew this girl and she would just randomly, completely out of the blue, start acting like a random two-year-old. And she started talking like she was a little bit of a two-year-old and being super annoying and she would bump into you or mess up what you were doing or throw things at the guys or whatever it was, she would just randomly, completely out of the blue, start acting like she was no longer an adult and completely being annoying on purpose. Now if you paid close attention you would notice that she did this whenever she felt like she was losing control. This is so common in toxic women. If she is annoying you on purpose she’s trying to keep you in your place.
So if in the back of your mind you’ve ever wondered “Is she doing that on purpose? Why is she doing this?” there’s a really good chance that it is a red flag that she is a toxic woman.
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4 – She’s Physically Abusive
Our next sign, I want to say it’s the most obvious but actually most people miss this, and it is that she’s physically abusive. Okay, right from the start we just need to establish that is never okay and if you ever feel like you are in any kind of danger get help immediately. You do not deserve that and honestly so many people think physical abuse is only something that happens to women, sadly it happens to men all day long. So that’s never appropriate. The reason I say that this can be a more subtle thing is toxic people don’t want you to know what they’re up to. And so, often they will be very very subtle about this. They may push you a little too hard, they may “accidentally” hurt you, when in reality if you pay attention they’re doing it whenever they want to keep you in line.
It’s important to be cautious about this because if you let it happen when it’s small and subtle it will escalate and it will get worse. So this is never an appropriate thing, this is definitely a sign of a toxic woman. Trust your gut on that. If you feel like maybe it wasn’t an accident there’s a really good chance it wasn’t an accident, especially if it happens frequently. Again, if you’re ever in any kind of danger be sure to get help. It’s better to be safe than sorry, right? So do what you need to do and realize that that is a sign of a toxic woman and that it is definitely her, not you.
5 – She’s Verbally Abusive
Our fifth sign of a toxic girlfriend or a toxic woman is verbal abuse. Now this can be yelling at you, that’s a much more obvious sign and it’s totally out of line, but often, especially with toxic women, it’s much more subtle. For instance, I saw a show, and I just really like the show, but there’s one couple in the show that irritates me because the guy is the ultimate heartthrob, he’s so incredible, and the girl he’s in love with is totally toxic. One of the things she says to him is “Oh, you know, you’re mildly cute.” They are married at this point, okay? And all she will tell him is “Well, you’re mildly cute.” And he says “Mildly?” And she says “Yeah.” That is as toxic as the day is long. With her words she is verbally abusing him. She was putting him down and belittling him.
The woman that you’re with and that ultimately you marry should make you feel amazing. She should make you feel more like a man and more attractive and more awesome. She should never, ever, ever put you down. So toxic women will often be very subtle about it. “Well it’s a good thing you’re cute.” And she will threaten you and belittle you with her words. So just know that that is never appropriate, ever. That is totally out of line and it’s not your fault. Again, this is not you, this is her.
So tell me this. Have you ever felt like “Oh no, I’m a magnet for toxic people.” Have you ever felt that way? I have, so let me just say there’s so much relief in knowing what it is that actually attracts toxic people. If you haven’t signed up for my free training on what attracts toxic women do it, like right now. What are you waiting for? It is such a huge relief. If you have felt like you are attracted to toxic women and you always find yourself in bad relationships you need to know these things. CLICK HERE to sign up for that and I will send it right to your inbox. The truth is, once you know what is attracting her it’s so much easier to break that cycle, which sounds pretty amazing, right?
Thank you so much for reading my wonderful friend! If you have a friend who’s been struggling with maybe a toxic girlfriend or attracting bad relationships be sure to share this with him. Sharing really is caring. I would love to hear from you in the comments. If you would like more on toxic women and toxic relationships be sure to let me know in comments and I would love to hear how these signs resonated with you and if you have ever experienced this in your life. If we’re not yet friends on social media be sure to check out the links for that above this article as well. Thank you so much again my amazing friend and have an amazing day!
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