6 Secrets Women Wish You Knew! Want to know what girls wish guys knew? These secrets are POWERFUL. Can you imagine the relief of just knowing what women really want? What you learn today will help you know how to understand women, some of the things girls like that guys do, how to get a girl to like you, how to get a girlfriend and how to get a girl to fall in love with you. All of this starts with knowing things girls wish guys knew and what women want. Sound exciting? Let’s get started with 6 Secrets Women Wish You Knew!
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Today’s video is on six secrets women wish you knew. What you are about to learn comes from my extensive research and my training as a certified coach, not to mention my insights as a woman. The most surprising thing may be the very last one so make sure you pay very close attention to that one.
Now no lie, I had a comment the other day, I get comments like this about once a week, but this particular comment said “What? A female coach? No thank you. You do not ask the fish how to catch a fish, you ask the fishermen.” And the truth is, he would actually have been right if we had been talking about fish, which of course we are not. The truth is, I feel really bad for the guys who leave me these comments, because by having that mindset they’re actually missing out on one of the best tools they could have, one of their very best assets.
Now I in no way intend to come across as saying there’s not a place for male coaches, because the truth is, there is and there are very good ones. That’s not my point. Here is what I wish I could explain to the guys who leave me these comments though: they’re thinking about it all wrong.
Think About This
Let’s pretend for just a second that you just found out that you got a new job and it is in a foreign country. You leave tomorrow. This foreign country speaks a different language than you do and they have completely different cultures and you have to leave tomorrow. Would you be freaking out a little bit? I mean I certainly would be.
Let’s say though that you found out that they have actually provided you with a guide. Someone who speaks the native language fluently and will translate for you and help you be able to speak it fluently. This guide is very familiar with the culture there because this guide is a native. Would that be valuable to you? Would that be something you’d be interested in? This is the value of a female coach.
When you become familiar with the culture and familiar with the language in a foreign country you can become very, very fluent and very comfortable and really enjoy your stay. So does this kind of make sense? Is it easier to see why understanding what women really want changes everything? Just like once you understand the culture and the language in a foreign country it gets a lot more fun, the same is true when you understand what it is women are thinking.
I’m going to be sharing with you six things that are incredibly powerful that most men don’t know but that are really, really important to women. So just by being here and just by watching this video you are ahead of the game my friend. So with that let’s get started.
1 – Your Personality Matters
The first secret that women wish men knew is that your personality really does matter to her. Physical attraction is nice, obviously, and it’s definitely something you should bring to the table, but the truth is, women care about your personality as well. We live in a society that puts so much emphasis on physical appearance when the truth is, your personality is equally if not even more important.
If a woman meets a man who is physically attractive but has zero personality and is not remotely interesting, she’s done. There’s nothing to keep her there. She’s not interested. So this is why it’s important to make sure you have a growth mindset and you’re always working on who you are as a person.
Your personality is what makes you interesting and attractive and irresistible. Just know that your personality totally matters and is a deal-breaker to women. She wants to get to know the real you so don’t feel like you have to hide that. Your personality is super cute and it really does matter. Bottom line: she cares about who you are and not just about what you look like.
2 – Don’t Hide Your Flaws
The second secret women wish you knew is that she doesn’t want you to hide your flaws. As humans we kind of feel like we have to come across as perfect, right? I have certainly fallen into this trap. We all want to appear perfect because we want people to like us. The truth is though, we don’t seek out partners who we feel are better than us because that makes us feel like less, it makes us feel inadequate.
As a matter of fact, if a guy tries to present himself as perfect all the time he actually will repel most women. The exception is toxic women will actually want to show him off as a prize. “Oh look I got the perfect man.” But real women, we just want you. And when you show your flaws, oh my goodness, that means we can show ours too which is a huge relief. If you’re not perfect we don’t have to be perfect either.
We’re all humans, right? We are all imperfect and that’s part of what makes us perfect for each other. So it’s okay to let your guard down and let her see the real you, because again, a good woman, all she wants is to see the real you.
3 – Dress Really Nice
The third secret women wish you knew is that we love it when you dress really nice. If you’ve been watching my videos for a while this won’t surprise you. Guys, you look hot when you dress nice, okay? Just like you appreciate it when a girl gets all dressed up and looks gorgeous for you she really appreciates it when you get all dressed up nice for her, when your clothes are well-fitting and they flatter you and when you’re very well-groomed.
This obviously shows how attractive you are, which is a plus, but it also says something about who you are and the kind of respect you have for yourself and that you will have for her. Have you ever gone to someone’s house or known someone who is sloppy and you walk in their front door and their house is a mess and it kind of smells funny every time you go and you just kind of feel uncomfortable there? Have you ever been in that situation? The same is true of how we present ourselves.
Sloppy has never been attractive and it will never be attractive, it just won’t. So dressing nice shows that you have respect. Just like someone who takes care of their house shows that they have respect and that they have class the same is true with how you present yourself. So long story short, when you dress nicely and when you are well-groomed it shows her that you’re super hot, and also it tells her a little bit about who you are as a person.
Now if you need help knowing how to dress super hot, don’t worry, I have some videos for you on that. Be sure to at least check out THIS ONE, but I do have others for you above this article as well. Be sure to check them out, they will help you tons.
I have a quick question for you before we keep going. I’ve never done a video on things girls wish guys knew or secrets girls wish you knew before now. If you would like me to do more on this be sure to comment “YES!” in the comments below and I will be sure to do that for you.
4 – Be Caring, Kind, Sensitive, and Sincere
Alright, so our next thing that women wish you knew is that there is nothing as hot as a guy who cares, a guy who is kind and sensitive and sincere. That is super, super attractive. Again, if you’ve been watching my videos for a while you know that one thing that is really important to women is to feel safe. If you want to attract a woman and if you want her to be your girlfriend you need to make sure she feels safe with you.
The key to making her feel safe is to just be a nice guy, to show her you are caring and you are sensitive and that you are there for her. Now there is a really important thing you need to know about this. This does not work if you are only nice and caring and sensitive to her. It has to be real, it has to be authentic. You can’t just treat her right and everybody else like you don’t really care. That comes through to women, women notice those things. So you just have to make sure that you are a kind person all the way around.
Now I am going to mention because I’m sure I will get a comment about this “Nice guys finish last.” I know we’ve all heard it. That is actually not true and in THIS VIDEO I explain why and that if that has been true for you what you can do to fix it. Make sure you watch it, it will help you tons.
5 – She Doesn’t Need You to Fix It
And the next thing women wish you knew is that she doesn’t need you to fix it. Here’s a classic scenario for you: a girl comes home from work, she’s tired and a little bit upset, it was a hard day and she starts telling him about it. Instantly, because it’s in his nature, he wants to fix it, he wants to go out there and he wants to make things happen and take care of her. What she really wants is for him to just listen to her.
Now please understand it is in your nature as a man to want to get out there and fix it and defend her and protect her. And the truth is, that is super hot and that is one thing that really attracts women to men and one thing that makes women feel safe with a man, but it only works in certain situations.
Most of the time when she’s telling you about something that is upsetting her or a hard time or something like that, all she wants is to feel validated. She wants to feel like you understand her and that you are listening to her. That is a deal-breaker for a woman. That makes her feel connected to you and attracted to you and that’s what makes her feel important to you. So yes, there’s absolutely a time and a place for you to get out there and you to defend and that is super attractive to her, but most of the time all she wants is for you to just listen and validate how she’s feeling.
The one exception to this is if she is a toxic woman she does want you to fix it because she wants to control your life. That’s a whole different story. Be sure to watch at least THIS VIDEO on toxic women but I will put links to some others above this article as well. If you’re having problems with that be sure to check out those videos for sure.
So are you finding these things to be surprising? If you are I want to hear about it in the comments. Let me know which one of these is the biggest surprise for you.
6 – Not All Women Play Mind Games
And we are to the last thing women wish guys knew so pay close attention to this one. Women wish guys knew that not all women play games. We’ve all heard it, right? “Oh, all women play games.” That is a big fat lie.
I actually heard someone say this the other day and I got a little mad inside. My first thought was “Well, I don’t play mind games, my friends don’t, my mom doesn’t, and my sister doesn’t.” No, not all girls play games.
As a matter of fact guys, you just deserve to know this, toxic women want men to think that all girls play games because toxic women thrive on drama, they thrive on mind games, they’re all about feeding their egos. They want men to think that all girls play games because if you think that then you have to put up with them because that’s all you think there is.
The truth is, there are so many amazing women on this planet who would never ever want to mess with your mind, she just wouldn’t. The truth is, from my perspective I don’t have time or interest to play with a guy. If I am interested in him, I’m interested in him, and I want to get to know him better and I want to flirt with him and I want to have fun. I don’t want to mess with him. If I care about a guy, I care about a guy, so I want to treat him well.
This is the case for so many women so please don’t feel like you have to settle for a woman who plays games. Why in the world would you want to settle for a woman like that when you could have a woman who just wants to treat you with the respect and kindness you deserve? Bottom line, not all women play games. Sadly, toxic women do play games.
Now this is just a brief overview of some of the things that women want, but how would you like to know all of my secrets? I’ve put together some free training for you on the big things you have to know to get the girl. CLICK HERE to sign up for that. Guys, this is life-changing and I can’t wait for you to watch it. It’s totally free, just click that link, it’ll ask for your name and your email, you’ll register and I will send you a link so you can watch this exclusive training.
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