Tips on How to Get a Girlfriend (Spoiler: Don’t Believe The Massive Lies!) Wondering how to find a girlfriend? Just knowing these massive lies will help you do just that! Once you are aware of these lies and instead know the truth it will be MUCH easier to know how to get a girlfriend. This video will help you if you need to know how to get a Christian girlfriend, how to get a girlfriend as an introvert or even how to get a girlfriend when you are shy. If you want to know how to find the one you need to know these lies! Ready? Great! Let’s get started with Tips on How to Get a Girlfriend (SPOILER: Don’t Believe The Massive Lies!)
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Tips on How to Get a Girlfriend (Spoiler: Don’t Believe The Massive Lies!)
I have some incredible tips on how to get a girlfriend for you. Specifically, I’ll be covering three massive lies that you need to be aware of. If you are struggling to get your dream girlfriend it’s probably because you’ve been taught one or more of these lies.
Honestly, I used to think these lies were 100% true and I cannot begin to tell you the freedom I have experienced ever since I learned the truth so I wanted to share them with you today.
Now as I mentioned we’re going to be addressing three massive lies that will keep you from getting your dream girlfriend. So are you ready to get started? Let’s dive in.
Lie 1 – You’re Too Picky
Now the first lie that is very common is that you are just too picky. Have you ever been told that?
The first time I ever heard this I was actually at a family party. This was years ago before I became a Christian dating coach.
A specific relative singled me out and approached me. And I knew it was coming because it always came and she wanted to know if I was dating anyone. You have that relative too? Lots of fun, right?
I had just gone through a breakup, I didn’t want to talk about it, but I just mentioned: “You know I was getting to know this guy but it didn’t work out.“
And she said to me “Oh well you’re just too picky. Maybe you’re just too picky.” And I kind of felt like I had been hit between the eyes to be perfectly honest with you.
If you’ve ever been in that situation I’m sure you know what it feels like too. I remember thinking “Wait a second. One, that was rude. And two, why am I being too picky? The guy I just broke up with treated me like trash. My self-esteem was incredibly low, he wasn’t good to me, and it just wasn’t a good idea. It was a terrible relationship. So why was I being told that I am too picky?“
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It’s kind of a terrible situation to find yourself in when you start wondering “Am I being too picky?” So let me put your mind at rest.
Here is the reality: You are not being too picky as long as you are willing to rise to the level of what you are wanting.
Now pay attention, I’m about to share a massive secret with you. This is the secret to getting the girl of your dreams. Are you paying attention?
The way to get your dream girl is to be the dream guy of your dream girl.
Does that make sense? As long as you are willing to rise to the level of the type of person you want to attract, you’re not being too picky.
If instead you just kind of expect her to settle for you but you aren’t willing to rise to her level, well then, you know, you kind of need to make a few changes there.
But at the end of the day wanting someone who’s going to treat you amazing, that’s not picky.
Wanting someone incredible in every way, as long as you’re trying to be incredible in every way, is not being too picky.
Be sure to watch a video I did which is How to Get a Girlfriend No Matter What. That video will help you understand how to make sure you are a match for your dream girl and that you are the dream guy for your dream girl.
Because again that’s the key. As long as you have that then yeah you’re not being too picky at all. Is that making sense?
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Lie 2 – Just Keep Waiting
Now the second big lie I’m going to illustrate with the story. Sound good?
Let’s pretend that your friend comes to you one day and he is so excited. He tells you “Hey, I have been praying and I finally know what I’m supposed to do with my life and I couldn’t be happier. I have prayed and pondered and I feel like God is telling me to be a doctor and that’s what I’m supposed to do.“
And you say “Oh my goodness that’s so exciting, I’m so happy for you. What schools have you started looking into? What’s your next step?“
He says “Well, no, didn’t you just hear what I said? I’m not looking for schools. I just said God called me to be a doctor so I don’t need to go to school. I found a building in town and I’m gonna set up my practice and I’m gonna start next week.“
How would you reply to your friend? You’d probably try and talk him out of it, right?
It makes no sense. There’s absolutely no way that’s right. As a doctor it’s your responsibility to know what you’re doing, right? You would never think about doing that with your career.
You obviously would want to go through the right training for whatever your career is, right? The sad reality is though that we do this with relationships all the time.
For so many of us in the Christian world, we have been taught that you just wait for God to bring you the one. That you just wait on God and eventually the one will show up.
The truth is guys I believed this for so many years and sadly I see so many singles who stay single forever because they believe this lie.
Now so many of us have been taught this like it is a doctrine, right? You have probably been taught this in church.
What most people don’t know though is that that’s not doctrine. It comes from the belief of a soulmate and the ‘one and only’ for you.
And actually, that’s not biblical, that is anti-biblical.
The Anit-Biblical Lie
The whole concept of a soulmate is that there’s one other person out there who will complete you and who will make you whole. But wait, that’s not biblical. Jesus is the only one who can make us whole! Jesus is the only one who can complete us.
So the whole concept of a soulmate is anti-biblical. Now I do believe in a soulmate but it looks incredibly different from what most people think. That’s a topic for another day.
But this whole belief that God is just going to put the person who is supposed to be with you in your life, that is a lie that keeps so many good Christians single and you don’t deserve that.
It’s not fair to you to have been taught that lie.
Here’s the reality: God is our loving father, he wants us to learn and grow and progress. He wants us to put in the effort and then He leads, intervenes, guides, and directs.
He is certainly going to be involved in you finding your spouse but he’s not going to do the work for you. He’s a loving Father, not a control freak who wants us to be obedient little robots.
So just like you would never let God do all the work in your career or any other big area of your life you can’t just let God do all the work with your relationship either.
When singles believe this, one of two things happens.
They either spend their entire life single and are upset at God for not bringing them the person when it’s not God’s fault, or they end up exhausted and they settle for less than they want.
This one lie is probably the biggest.
Yes God is 100% involved, he already knows who you’re going to be with and he wants to guide you through that process.
But just like your career he expects you to do the work and put in the effort and then he steps in and he intervenes and helps. Does that make sense?
Lie 3 – You’re Dream Relationship Doesn’t Exist
Now our third lie is that your dream relationship does not exist.
I fell for this for so many years you guys. This is part of what made me want to become a coach when I finally learned reality about this.
I’m going to be very blunt with you for a second, is that okay? The truth is toxic people want you to believe that good and happy relationships don’t exist.
Toxic people want you to believe that this is as good as it gets so you better just settle for it.
The reason being they don’t want you to rise above it, they want you to stay where you are.
Have you ever heard how if you have a bucket of crabs the crab will try and crawl up the side of the bucket and get out but another crab will pull them back down into the bucket before they can escape?
This is what toxic people do all day long. Any time you start to get above the bucket and think “Hey, maybe there’s a whole world out there. Maybe I can go out and live it.” they grab you and they pull you back down because they want you to stay in the bucket with them.
Unfortunately, as I was growing up I had a lot of toxic people in my life and I thought that was normal. I ached inside, I wanted a healthy relationship and a happy relationship, my dream relationship so bad.
And I thought it was real because I know God is good but I wasn’t seeing any evidence of it.
It wasn’t until I eliminated the toxic people from my life that I realized holy moly, there are so many happy relationships. They exist and you can have one too as long as you know the right skills.
Yes, you need to be realistic in what you want, you need to realize that people are human, but dream relationships are a reality when you have the right skills.
I share some of those skills with you in my free guide 17 Traits Christian Women Want Most in a Man. If you are wanting your dream girlfriend you need to know these things.
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