How To Not Get Friend-zoned (3 Tips To Avoid The Friend Zone Forever!) Need to know how to avoid the friend zone forever? You are in the right place! In this video I’m sharing how to stay out of the friend zone AND some tips that may just help you know how to get out of the friend zone and how to escape the friend zone. If you are asking yourself “why am I in the friend zone” or “what should I do if I love my best friend” then you’ll love what you learn here. Liking your best friend can be a tricky situation but these tips will help you know how to not get friend zoned ever again. Sound exciting? Let’s get started with 3 tips to avoid the friend zone forever!
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How To Not Get Friend-Zoned (3 Tips To Avoid The Friend Zone Forever!)
Hello, my wonderful friend! Today’s video is on how to not get friend-zoned, 3 tips that will help you avoid the friend zone forever.
Let’s face it, it is so much easier to stay out of the friend zone than it is to get out.
Sometimes you can get out of the friend zone, sometimes frankly you just can’t. So it is a million times easier to just avoid it, to not get friend-zoned right from the start.
These three tips that I’m going to be sharing with you are the secret to doing just that. To avoiding the friend zone forever so that you could instead just get the girl and stop wasting your time.
So if that’s what you’re interested in, if you want to make sure you stop getting rejected and stop being alone and instead just get the girl, make sure you watch to the end.
Now before we hop right into the tips my name is Melannie. I’m a Christian dating coach for men.
My specialty is helping you know how to stop wasting your time, stop wasting your money, stop being rejected, and learn the skills to just be able to get your ideal girlfriend.
If you follow me on social media you guys know that I like to get your input on what videos I should make. And I asked you on Instagram if I should make a video on how to not get friend-zoned. And you guys said yes.
The truth is I know the friend zone is a terrible place to be so I’m so excited to bring you this video. P.S. if you do not yet follow me on Instagram there is a link above this article.
I share so many amazing tips with you there. And as I mentioned you also get some input on what kind of content I create. So be sure to check that out and give me a follow over there.
With that, let’s dive in with tip number one on how to not get friend-zoned.
Tip 1 – Increase Your Confidence
The first thing you need to know to stay out of the friend zone forever is that you need to increase your confidence. If you are struggling with being in the friend zone a lot your confidence is going to be key.
Confidence is important for a couple of reasons. One, it’s incredibly attractive to women. Everyone on the planet enjoys being around confident people.
And one of the main things a woman is looking for in her man is confidence. This makes you more attractive, it makes you more masculine, and it makes her feel safer with you.
One of the big things that keep guys in the friend zone is lack of confidence. Partially because if you don’t have confidence you never act, you never pursue her, and that causes you to be friend-zoned.
If you’ve been following my channel for a while you know I talk about confidence a lot. But a common question is “okay then what is confidence? How do I get confident?“
There’s actually a lot of misunderstandings about this. A lot of people say it’s just like “man up and make it happen.” And the truth is that’s not the whole picture.
The best way I have found to explain this is with an image.
Now, this is actually what is known as the Dunning-Kruger effect. This is psychology. This is what every single person goes through whenever we learn something new. It is 100% normal.
So if you look at the left side of this image you see that when we start to learn something new and we’re a beginner we all of a sudden take this huge shot of confidence, right?
And we’re like “yes! I know everything there is to know about this topic.“
One way I like to think of it is kind of like when you learn the alphabet. Do you remember as a kid? It’s like “wow I know everything because I now know the alphabet.“
But then as you go on you start to realize “well now I have to learn how to spell and read and write.“
And you start to get discouraged and you realize “wow I didn’t really know as much as I thought I did. Maybe I’m kind of stupid. This is hard” and you start to settle down into that valley of despair.
Have you ever felt that feeling, that valley of despair? We all have, right? I have certainly been there.
Now ideally what happens is we keep moving along the graph. We keep going to the right which is gaining more knowledge. You learn how to read, you learn how to write, you learn how to spell.
This causes you to go up the slope of enlightenment as you’re gaining knowledge and confidence. And pretty soon you’re at the plateau of sustainability and you’re just a master at this. You know how to read, you know how to write.
Personally, I’m still not that good at spelling but you know, who’s counting, right?
But ultimately you become confident at that, right? Well, the same is true with anything we learn including dating and relationships.
What I see keep so many men single, so many good men single, is false confidence. They’re in the first stage on the left side of this picture.
They’re on the peak of mount misinformed thinking they know everything and it gives them a quick boost of confidence.
They saw something in high school and they think that that’s what’s going to work. Or they saw something on TV, they think that’s what is going to work.
They got a quick trick off of the internet and think “hey this is the secret!” and they hit the peak of mount misinformed.
And then when it doesn’t go the way they want it to then they start thinking “well maybe I’m just a loser” and they settle down into the valley of despair.
They start thinking “well it’s just because nobody’s ever going to want me” and they settle down into the valley of despair.
Now unfortunately so many people have no idea that they had false confidence. They have no idea that they didn’t have the knowledge they needed and we’re hanging out on the peak of mount misinformed.
And so they either just stay in the valley of despair or they go back and they hop back up to the peak of mount misinformed.
That is not real confidence. You are going to never get your ideal girl that way and you’re gonna stay in the friend zone that way.
Instead to create real confidence you have to gain more knowledge. You have to move to the right and you have to go up that slope of enlightenment.
The more knowledge you get the better you get at dating, the better you get at being attractive, the better you get at being able to get your ideal girlfriend.
So the ultimate way to gain confidence is you have to gain more knowledge.
Otherwise, you just stay on the peak of mount misinformed, which some people actually call the peak of mount stupidity. Because it’s stupid to stay there if instead you could move on and gain more knowledge.
So ultimately the secret to being confident is to be competent, to gain more knowledge. This is how you really truly have confidence.
This is the problem with just saying “oh I’m just gonna alpha up and just make it happen.“
If you’re on the peak of mount misinformed there’s so much you don’t know and you’re gonna fail and you’re gonna end up in the valley of despair.
If instead you just learn the knowledge you need and you become very very competent at this well then instead you don’t have that fake high and then that really awful low.
You instead just become a boss at this. This is actually why the number one thing I hear from my clients who go through my paid program is that they have confidence like they’ve never known before.
It’s because they are learning how to become competent in addition to how to become more attractive, and this is what creates real lasting confidence.
I am actually giving you three paid lessons from my program totally for free so you can take it for a test drive right now.
If you’re sick of being alone and if you’re sick of being single and sick of being friend-zoned and you just want real, lasting confidence be sure to take advantage of that right now.
Take it for a test drive, no credit card required, and honestly see how you can benefit from learning how to just be confident by gaining the knowledge you need to get that ideal girlfriend. Click here to check that out right now.
But again to sum up the way to become confident is to become good at it, to become competent. And if you want to stay out of the friend zone becoming confident is key.
Tip 2 – Pursue Her
Let’s move on to our second tip on how to not get friend-zoned. Tip number two is to pursue her.
I just did this video (“This” Makes A Woman Think About You Non-Stop), which will help you a ton if you’d like even more on this.
But in short pursuing is something God created women to need.
And if you want her to see you as a man and as an attractive man and someone she would want to get to know better and someone she would want to date then you need to pursue her.
If you present yourself as just a friend, someone who’s just fun to hang out with, then that’s really the only option she has is to see you that way. You are teaching her how to treat you and how to see you.
If instead, you present yourself as an attractive man who is interested and interesting well then that is how she can see you.
So it’s very critical to make sure you make a move. If you just act like you are friends, even if she was interested at some point, she’s going to assume you’re not interested because you never made a move.
And she’s going to go find a man who will pursue her and who is interested in her.
So honestly the best way to stay in the friend zone is to act like just a friend. Instead, you need to act like someone who she would want to date.
Tip 3 – Learn How to Be Attractive To Her
Tip number three with how to not get friend-zoned is you need to know how to be attractive to her.
Attraction really is a science. And what’s so beautiful about that is once you know that attraction is a science it actually becomes really easy.
You follow the specific steps and then it’s a piece of cake instead of an impossible code to crack.
Again if you are presenting yourself as just a friend then that’s how she’s going to see you.
But if you present yourself as an attractive man who knows that you are amazing and who has enough self-worth to not get stuck in the friend zone then that’s how she’s going to see you.
Now I do want to clarify. When I say you need to know how to attract her what most people think is “oh I don’t have a six-pack so she’s never gonna like me.“
That’s not true. As a matter of fact, there are tons of men with six-packs who do not have girlfriends, okay? That’s reality.
There’s so much more that goes into being an attractive person than most people realize. Because again they’re living on the peak of mount misinformed.
So being confident is going to make your attraction soar. She is going to be very attracted to a confident man. The same is to be said for pursuing.
Again this is just the science behind what attracts a woman and it’s not all looks. It has so much more to do with knowing how to flirt with her, knowing how to talk to her, your body language.
All of those things really come together to make you attractive and make her feel like “whoa, I don’t want to just be friends with him. I want to date him, I want to get to know him better.” And she starts crushing on you and ultimately falls in love with you.
This is actually why in my program How to Get a Girlfriend I teach you how to both be confident and attractive. They work together to make you a very very attractive person, an irresistible person.
And the truth is being attractive is very very simple when you have the right game plan. So again make sure you take advantage of that sneak peek at my program. Click this link to take it for a test drive totally free.
I’ve actually been thinking about doing a video specifically on how to attract women and how to get a girl to like you.
Is that something you guys would be interested in? If it is be sure to let me know in the comments.
So to sum up real fast, if you want to make sure you stay out of the friend zone forever, if you want to avoid being friend-zoned, the number one thing you need to have is confidence.
We get confidence by being competent, by gaining more knowledge and becoming better at dating and relationships.
Tip number two is to pursue her. If you act like just a friend then that’s how she’s going to see you. But if you instead act like someone interesting and attractive to date then that’s how she’s going to see you.
Tip number three is to understand the science of attracting women. And no, it’s not just about looks. It’s about who you are as a person that really makes you irresistible to her.
And if you would like my help with knowing how to do that be sure to check out your free sneak peek at my program How to Get a Girlfriend.
Seriously if you’re sick of being friend-zoned and if you’re sick of being alone you need to check it out right now.
Thank you so much for reading my amazing friend!
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