Dating Traps: 10 Fatal Errors That Could Cost You the Girl of Your Dreams 😱. Are you making these common dating mistakes? In this video, I reveal the top 10 errors that might be keeping you from the love life you desire.

From simple misunderstandings to critical missteps, learn what to avoid to enhance your dating game. Whether you’re just getting back into the dating scene or have been trying to navigate it for a while, these insights will help you steer clear of pitfalls and move closer to meeting the girl of your dreams.

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Are you falling into common dating traps that sabotage your chances at finding true love? Join me as I uncover the top 10 dating mistakes that might be hindering your romantic journey. From pretending to be someone you’re not to overlooking red flags, learn how to avoid these pitfalls and pave the way for lasting love.


  • Putting on a Facade: Discover why pretending to be someone you’re not only leads to disappointment and misunderstandings.
  • Overthinking and Overanalyzing: Learn how to silence the inner critic and embrace the moment instead of overanalyzing every move.
  • Moving Too Fast: Understand the importance of taking things slow and building a solid foundation before rushing into commitment.
  • Ignoring Red Flags: Recognize the danger of dismissing warning signs and gut instincts in a relationship.
  • Being Too Passive: Explore why waiting for the other person to make a move can sabotage genuine connection and attraction.
  • Being Too Aggressive: Find out why being overly pushy or aggressive can drive potential partners away.
  • Talking Too Much About Yourself: Discover the balance between sharing about yourself and showing genuine interest in your date.
  • Being Too Negative: Understand how negativity can repel potential partners and hinder your chances at finding love.
  • Not Setting Boundaries: Learn why setting healthy boundaries is crucial for fostering respect and maintaining balance in a relationship.
  • Being Too Eager to Please: Explore the pitfalls of sacrificing your own needs and desires to please others in a relationship.

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Dating Traps: 10 Fatal Errors That Could Cost You the Girl of Your Dreams 😱 (Transcript)

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Let’s talk about the dating traps. Are you making these common dating mistakes? In this video, I reveal the top 10 dating errors that might be keeping you from the love you desire. From simple misunderstandings to critical missteps, learn what to avoid to enhance your dating game. As a Christian dating coach, who’s been helping men like you for seven plus years, I’m here to guide you through it.

Whether you’re just getting back into the dating game, or you’ve been trying to navigate it for a while, these insights will help you steer clear of pitfalls and move closer to meeting the beautiful girl of your dreams. That’s important stuff to know, right? Well, as we dive in into these 10 mistakes to avoid, I want to let you in on a little secret.

The men who have mastered these lessons in my academy are now experiencing deeper connections and lasting relationships. This isn’t just about avoiding common pitfalls. This is about building a foundation for a lasting love that can stand the test of time. So keep this in mind as we go through these mistakes.

There’s a proven path to success and it’s accessible to you. Mistake number one is putting on a facade, pretending to be someone you’re not. If we’re being honest, pretty much everyone has at least been tempted to do this at some point. We want people to like us, or we’re doing what is popular, what the popular things are that people are saying to do in order to get people to like you.

For instance, acting aloof is a really good example of that. However, If we pretend to be something we’re not, one, we’re going to be disappointed. We aren’t going to feel fulfilled. And two, the other person isn’t actually going to fall in love with you. They’re going to fall in love with this pretend version of yourself.

And. That’s just a recipe for disaster. So pretending to be someone you’re not and exaggerating qualities ultimately just leads to misunderstandings and disappointment. If you’ve been following me for a while, and especially if you’ve been in my academy, you know that it’s everything I teach is based on the science of attraction and how to apply that in a way where you stay completely authentically you.

You deserve someone who loves the real you. The real you, so don’t put on a facade. Okay, the next mistake, which is so easy to do, is overthinking and overanalyzing. Things like overanalyzing and constantly worrying about yourself and what you’re doing or the future of the relationship can bring on unnecessary stress and make it much harder to create that connection.

Sometimes the best thing we can do in dating and relationships is embrace the nerves and just have fun with it anyway. Overthinking it is, is setting you up for more heartache, and that’s the last thing you need. Trust me, I, as someone who has a very analytical mind, I know how easy it Easy it can be to overthink everything.

However you can teach yourself to stop doing that and instead direct your attention to more proactive things. And honestly, this is why as a coach, I have found, presenting my clients with that step by step process helps a ton. ’cause then you’re not worrying about the what ifs, you just know what to do.

So it’s definitely a habit that can be broken. Okay. The next mistake is another really easy one to make. This mistake is moving too fast. At the end of the day, we all want love, right? We all want connection. So it can be very, very tempting as humans to try and make it happen really fast, especially when you’re infatuated.

However, moving too fast, especially if we’re talking the, the more physical aspects of it, Aspects of love. That right there is setting you up for heartache and disaster, rushing into commitment or intimacy before you really get to know each other and before you know each other well, can really just lead to misunderstandings and relationship burnout.

Okay, the next mistake is ignoring red flags. Pretty much everyone is guilty of that at some point, especially when we’re infatuated. It can be so easy to kind of just. Pretend the red flag wasn’t there. But this is really one of the worst things you can do for your future happiness. Pretty much everyone who’s unhappy in their relationship is unhappy because they settled.

And one of the main ways we settle is by ignoring red flags, those warning signs, that gut instinct that maybe something isn’t right with our, our relationship, or, or maybe this person has some of those toxic traits. So it doesn’t matter how beautiful or charming she appears on the surface. If you have that gut feeling that this just isn’t right you want to, you want to heed that.

Otherwise it will just lead to heartache and disappointment down the line. Okay. The next mistake is one that I see made a lot. And this mistake is being too passive. Always waiting for the other person to make a move. This is especially true in that women are. Her feminine nature is craving your masculine nature.

Okay. That’s one of the reasons women are drawn to men is she just, she longs for your masculinity. However, if you’re not pursuing her, if you’re being too passive, that’s not masculine and it can cause even real authentic attraction to just kind of fizzle out and die. Now, a lot of people say to, you know, act aloof, act uninterested.

But in reality, what this does is it creates misunderstandings and it leads to a lot of missed opportunities. So you definitely want to avoid being too passive. It is not an attractive trait. And just, I’m just going to throw this out there. Of course, she should not be too passive in the relationship as well.

Okay. I don’t want to make it. Sounds like only a man should be proactive about the relationship. That is not remotely true at all. However, make sure that you are being proactive. It takes two invested people to make a relationship work. And this leads us right to the next mistake, the dating trap you want to avoid.

And this is. The opposite. This is being too aggressive. Being too pushy or overly aggressive can drive the other person away. It can make them feel very uncomfortable. This is especially true for women. Women have to feel safe in a relationship. in order to want to be in it. And so being super aggressive, for instance, like telling her you have feelings for her too soon before there’s that emotional connection or trying to rush it, rush the relationship or rush touch, things like that, that is way too aggressive and it will completely kill the relationship very early on.

Okay. This next dating mistake, I mean, they’re all easy to make. So if you’ve made any or several of these, it’s okay. Deep breath. That doesn’t make you a terrible person or a terrible potential partner. These are easy to make. That’s why we’re talking about them. This mistake is talking too much about yourself.

Tell me if you’ve ever been in this situation. I certainly have. Everybody has at some point, especially because if you’re not taught what to do about it, what you’re going to do, right? It gets very easy to, when you get nervous, just start talking about yourself. Like, what else are you going to talk about?

And some of that is even a good thing. When we’re dating, we, we want to get to know the other person. And if you just like, Don’t talk about yourself at all. Kaden, now you’re just like, how is she supposed to get to know you? Right. So it’s not that you can never talk about yourself, but sometimes when we’re nervous or we’re trying to impress someone, we can just talk about ourselves all the time and it’s it’s.

It gets boring really fast. Instead, it’s important to show genuine interest in what she’s saying, and in who she is, and her interests, and her feelings. If she feels like all you care about is yourself, it’s very, very off putting. Maybe you’ve known women like that. It’s just It’s not fun. This next mistake is a big one.

This is to be too negative. I can’t tell you, as again, I’ve been doing this coaching thing for a long time, and I can’t tell you how many people I have received messages from or DMs or, or comments. And they’re like, love is a lie. No women ever look at me. Women are all stupid. I, I, I’m giving up on love, but you look at a profile picture and you’re like something like this.

Do you really think anybody’s going to want to date someone like this? Instead, it’s, I know how hard it can be because everyone has to do this. I’ve had to do this. Everybody has to continue to do this. We have to look inward and we have to say, am I part of the problem? It’s like the scariest question ever.

But if you will actually address this, That’s that. It transforms everything. How you feel about yourself, how you see yourself, how you feel about the world, how other people see you. And so being too negative is incredibly off putting. This is one of the main things I see keep people single who don’t have to be single.

Like they can be happily married, but they’re too negative for someone to want to spend their life with them. So constantly complaining or frustrated. focusing on the negative aspects of life. Sometimes this is even just ranting about the news and things like that. It’s very off putting. It dampens the mood and it pushes people away.

Okay. The next mistake might surprise a couple people. And this mistake is not setting any boundaries. Sometimes we think the nicer we are the, the, the less we set boundaries and the less we set boundaries, the more people will like us, but that’s not the case. People feel more comfortable when they understand what the boundary is.

They also tend to respect you more. In addition to that, you got to protect yourself, right? You got to set the relationship up for success. And one way we do that is by setting those boundaries. early on. Now, resentment grows and festers when we don’t set boundaries and when our boundaries aren’t met. We feel resentful about it, whether we mean to or not.

So it’s critical to have those healthy boundaries, to know what they are and to set them early on. Okay. The next dating mistake is being too eager to please. Continuing to sacrifice your own needs and desires in a relationship causes imbalance and it leads to dissatisfaction. It can cause some of that resentment that we just talked about.

Being too eager to please is very, very common, especially when you’re just trying to be a kind, nice person. You can be kind, you can be nice. while still having your own self respect and your own boundaries. So you do not have to sacrifice everything that you love that’s important to you that you desire for a relationship.

And there you have it, my friend, 10 crucial mistakes to avoid if you want to transform your dating life. But wait, there’s one more thing you need to do. If you found these tips helpful and you’re ready to dive deeper, I invite you to join me in my online program, Attracting Lasting Love Academy. It’s designed specifically for men like you who want to become high value, attractive by default, and meet the woman of your dreams.

So don’t miss this opportunity to change your love life forever. Sign up for my new free masterclass now to learn more and get started on your journey to success in love. I just went through and redid. my entire masterclass. And I am, I’m teaching more in this masterclass than I’ve ever been able to before.

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