The No Contact Rule (Why It Doesn’t Work!) Are you thinking of trying the no contact rule after a breakup? 🤔 Or have you been asking “does the no contact rule work?” If yes, then you’re in the right spot!
The no contact rule does NOT work and if you use it, you’ll only end up miserable. ❌ In this video you’ll learn why the no contact rule doesn’t work, why the no contact rule always backfires AND what to do instead so you can attract and charm your dream girl.
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The No Contact Rule (Why It Doesn’t Work!)
Hello, my wonderful friend! Today’s video and article are on the no contact rule (why it doesn’t work!) and what to do instead.
Have you ever really cared for someone, but you felt her pulling away from you? 🤔 Or maybe you were really trying to attract her, but it just wasn’t working?
And so you heard about the no contact rule and thought maybe you should give it a try. Stop!
Before you do anything, you need to understand why that is a very short-term result. In the long run, it will push your dream girl away from you and cause you to mess up your relationships.
➡️ As I mentioned, I’m going to be sharing with you what to do instead, so make sure you read to the end of this article.
My name is Melannie. I’m a Christian dating coach for men, and I teach you how to find, attract, and keep the girl of your dreams.
The best part is as a certified coach, I never teach you relationship mind games. Instead, I teach you real science.
How To Have A Healthy Relationship
There are two types of relationships that you can have. In the first type of relationship, you never really feel safe in that relationship. You’re always a little worried that maybe she’ll stop loving you.
You’re always a little worried that maybe she’ll cheat on you or maybe she’ll lose interest in you. And you don’t really feel like you can be yourself in that relationship. ❌
Maybe you’ve felt that before. It’s miserable, right? You always have to pretend to be something you aren’t to keep her around. That’s the first type of relationship.
The second type of relationship is not perfect, but it’s pretty amazing. You are 100% you, she is 100% her, and you love each other like crazy.
You laugh together, you cry together, you make memories together, and you feel completely safe with each other. ✅
Which type of relationship would you rather have? The second one, right? You want a relationship that’s full of love and happiness and respect and that lasts a lifetime.
Here’s what you need to know. 👉 The no contact method will only get you the first type of relationship, where you feel you can’t trust her, you feel it will never work, and maybe she’s never going to love you for you.
If you use the no contact rule, you cannot have the second type of relationship full of safety, love, and respect. Why is that? It’s because the no contact rule is a mind game.
Whenever you begin a relationship with mind games, you will have to maintain mind games throughout the entire relationship. And ultimately, the relationship will end because of mind games. 💡
Instead, if you want a happy lifelong relationship, you cannot have mind games. Is this making sense? Do you see the difference between the two strategies, the two types of relationships?
Here are three reasons why the no contact rule does not work and what to do instead so that you can have that happy lifelong relationship. ⬇️
#1 – The No Contact Rule Is Manipulation
The first reason the no contact rule does not work is that it is manipulation. A lot of people claim that the no contact rule is based on psychology.
And honestly, it kind of is, but it’s because it’s manipulative, it is manipulation. Psychologically you can manipulate people through trickery and lies.
This means the no contact rule is a toxic tactic. And if you are using a toxic tactic or a toxic strategy, that makes you the toxic person in the relationship. 😬
That’s not what you want, right? You want to remove those toxic habits, like right now.
I will be 100% honest with you, it may get her attention if you use the no contact rule. It legitimately may only because something’s different. And as humans, we tend to notice things that are different, right?
However, it will not win her respect. Getting her attention without getting her respect is a waste of time, as it will ultimately push her away from you. So what do you do instead?
What I teach my clients in my program is how to instead get her attention and increase her attraction for you by being authentically you and building her respect for you. 👈
You don’t want conflict in your relationship, right? Instead, you want loyalty, you want trust, you want to know that your heart is safe with her.
You want to know that she still gets butterflies when she looks at you, and you still want to get butterflies when you look at her, right?
That is only something you can do when there’s respect in the relationship and when you’re authentically you. 💡
If you always have to wait so long before you can talk to her, or if you have to pull away so she’ll chase you, you’re not authentically you because who wants to do that?
Can you imagine being married to someone and thinking, “okay, I have to not talk to my wife for a few days so that she’ll still love me.“? Can you imagine a relationship like that? It would be terrible, right?
How To Attract Women The Right Way
You want to be with someone you can make awesome memories with, and you can talk to all the time, and who will always love you for you, right?
➡️ That is why instead, you need to make sure you know how to increase her attraction for you by being authentically you.
Now you may be thinking, “okay, Melannie, I understand this, but what do I do if she’s pulling away? What do I do if I feel her pulling away from me?“
Here’s what you need to know. Women do not pull away from men who have what they are looking for in a partner. They just don’t.
If she sees that you have what she’s looking for in a husband, then of course, she’s not going to pull away from you.
She wants to fall in love with you, she wants you to be her dream man, she wants her search for her dream man to be over, and she wants it to be you. 🔥
And if she sees that you have those traits, that’s amazing, that’s what she wants, there’s no reason she would pull away.
This is why I teach my clients in my program what a woman is looking for in a lifelong partner. Things like your attitude, your maturity, your confidence, your mindset.
Those skills are the things that make her fall in love with you and want to spend her entire life with you and not pull away from you. ✅
So by now, you can see that mind games don’t work, right? And by now, you can see that what I teach in my program never teaches you mind games, right?
In all honesty, there is nothing else on the internet like this, which is exactly why I created my program. So you would have somewhere to go to learn these things without any of the mind games.
To learn more about my program and how you can get these skills so that you don’t have to worry about mind games and a relationship that crumbles, be sure to watch my free masterclass. 👈
Instead, you will be empowered to know how to find her, attract her, and ultimately keep her. So watch that free masterclass to learn more about my program.
#2 – You Always Have To Guess If She Loves You
Okay, the next reason why the no contact rule does not work is that it’s a guessing game. You never really know how she’s going to react. You never really know if she’s going to pull away.
You never really know if you pull away is she going to let you walk away, or is she going to come back to you? You’re always guessing what to say, what to do, how to do it.
You’re always having to go back to your relationship mind game cheat sheet if you will, and try and figure out what you’re supposed to do. ❌ And it’s exhausting.
But not only is it a guessing game for you, but it’s a guessing game for her too. What this means is you have a relationship that has no trust, it has no loyalty, it has no respect, as I mentioned.
Instead, you want to build a relationship that thrives on trust where you can really count on each other. ✅
Something I’m very careful about when I teach my clients is I never give them an exact script. “Text her exactly this. Say this. Oh, use this line.” The no contact rule is a script, which is part of why it’s a mind game.
The reason for that is, again, you can’t be authentic, right? You can’t really be you because you’re always following the script.
Instead, I teach how to make every part of the relationship comfortable and automatic, so it’s really just a part of who you are instead of a script.
This is why learning dating and relationship and social skills, how to handle the relationship, make it flow naturally and automatically is so important. 💡
If you haven’t yet seen this video (How To Make A Girl Fall For You), you need to watch it. I talk more about the skills your dream girl is looking for and how you can learn them.
#3 – The No Contact Rule Only Attracts Drama Queens
Okay, the next thing you need to know about the no contact rule is important. Are you paying close attention? The no contact rule only attracts drama queens.
If you’ve been following my channel for a while, you know that we talk about toxic women and how they’re real, and toxic relationships and how harmful they are. 😬
Only toxic women are attracted to mind games. As a matter of fact, toxic women want and look for mind games. They love the drama.
When a man plays a mind game with a toxic woman, she goes, “Oh, game on,” and she becomes very invested in creating more drama.
Often, if you pull back from a toxic woman, or you do the no contact rule with a toxic woman, she’s not about to let that happen because of her ego.
“What? No! He can’t walk away from me. So I’ll pretend I’m attracted to him, I’ll get his attention again, and then I will break up with him.” ❌ Guys, it’s sad, but it happens all the time.
A classy woman, a high-quality woman, won’t tolerate toxic mind games for two seconds. Why? Because she’s looking for a mature relationship. ⬅️
If you try the no contact rule on a high-quality woman, it may initially get her attention. “Oh, what’s going on? Is something wrong?“
She’ll notice that something’s different, but then she’ll think, “whoa! He’s playing mind games with me. I don’t want a husband who plays mind games and pulls away from me.” And then she’ll walk away.
This is why the no contact rule will actually push away classy, high-quality women while attracting toxic women.
👉 Something I teach my clients about in my program is how to spot a toxic woman before they get involved. Because you need to know this, toxic women prey on good men. They just do. That is the sad reality.
This is one reason why toxic women will teach you to play the no contact rule. They love the drama, and they want to create more of it, and they want to justify it.
I teach how to spot toxic women, how to avoid them, and what to do instead to attract your dream girl. And the way you do that is with the skills I mentioned earlier.
If you haven’t yet seen this video (15 Things Women Secretly Want Men To Do) and this video (How To Get A Girl’s Attention), they will teach you more about that.
And when you’re ready to learn step by step how to get your dream girl, check out my program by watching my free masterclass. ✅
The No Contact Rule (Why It Doesn’t Work!) – Recap
Okay, let’s sum up again why the no contact rule does not work.
- The no contact rule is manipulation. And anytime you are using a toxic strategy, it means you can only create a toxic relationship.
- It’s a guessing game. You can’t feel safe in a relationship like that, and neither can your dream girl. You want a relationship instead that makes you feel comfortable, safe, and secure. 👈
- The no contact rule only attracts toxic women. And if you’re looking for a happy lifelong relationship, you do not want a toxic woman.
Thank you so much for reading, my amazing friend! I want to hear from you in the comments.
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